It's up to the Universe

The time has come. I need to relinquish control. It's not like I was ever really in control of the situation, but I was trying very hard. It's very difficult to let go and adopt the what will be, will be attitude. Let the Universe take care of it.

It is human nature to try and control everything that happens in our lives. Of course, we are the drivers of our lives, so we need to direct them. But it's not healthy to be in control all the time, as it causes stress and disappointment. But handing the problem to the Universe actually takes a weight off my shoulders and allows me to go on with the business of living life.



I'm not saying that I manage just to cut myself off and let go. It's a bit of a process. It's easy to say, "well if it happens it happens", but actually stopping the mind process takes a little longer. But if I fill my time with living life, like baking with the kids, writing this blog and doing fun stuff, my mind doesn't have time to dwell on the problem.

I can't deal with all my problems this way, as some of them do require action from me, but for those that are not within my realm of influence, I need to let go. The Universe has got it covered. It's not to say I can't chat to my angels and guides and ask them to help with the situation. But I can't ask them to handle it and then still try and make things happen. I have to believe.

There is a plan for me and I need to let it unfold as it should. As the song by Charles & Eddie goes, "For everything there is a reason." I need to stop questioning and let it happen and where I can I need to do and make my choices carefully.

So here goes. "I ask my divine angels to take control of selling our house. I ask for the grace to accept that it is not going to happen to my timetable but rather to that of the Universe. I thank you for your help."

Self Help or Help Self

I start with such enthusiasm. This is great! I can do this! My goal is ABC... and I'm going to reach it in 1234... This book is going to get me to where/who I want to be.


Page 1... That's exactly what I want. Oh yes, I do that. Page 2, 3, 4... This book is going to help me so much. I should have bought this ages ago. This author knows exactly what they are writing about. I must look for more books written by this person.

And so I continue to read this book to a better me and before I'm done, I've bought a half dozen more. And then lying in bed reading I get to that very important part... the exercises (Not necessarily physical, but writing stuff down, or meditating, or...). I'm in bed and it's late, so I'll start tomorrow.

And tomorrow the kids are sick or I have to work on a homework assignment. The next day the dogs need to go to the vet and I need to visit my friend. By day 7, I'm starting to admit, all be it very sheepishly that there is either something wrong with me, or the book.

I started the book because I felt there was something in me I could improve on, so it must be me and not the book. But hang on, if the book is that great, why couldn't it get me through to the end. Maybe there's a different kind of book for people like myself who can't complete the exercises. Maybe I need to give up on the books and attend a course where
someone is watching me do the exercises.

So I have a house full of half finished self help books which are great books, just none that I've managed to finish. Let me take that back. I have finished reading some, just not done the exercises which are critical to the program working.

I'm not shooting these books down as I have managed an exercise here and there and it has helped, but any ideas on how I do help myself where I can't cop out because I'm in bed and it's too late to start with the exercises?